THEODOR AND US
ON THE GIFTS
Body and Soul
The name Theodor in Greek, means “Gift of God.” More ancient than the Greek language is its meaning in the original Thracian language, presently called Daco-Romanian, where it appears as Zeul Dor, meaning “Longing for God,” as well as Zeul Odor, meaning “Gift of God.” This ‘longing for God, or gift of God,’ is the human consciousness, spirit, life.
It took the advent of Quantum Physics to demonstrate that it is our intentions, thoughts and feelings, which influence matter, rather than the other way around.
This book will concentrate on the interconnectedness of these factors, which make us perceive our lives one way or another.
To be clear, the very term “human being” has shown that to us all along: namely, that we are made of a perishable part, finite, the “human” in us; and of an eternal, infinite energy part, the “being” in us.
While the “dust to dust,” flesh and bones part of us, has been praised, derided, obsessed over, or denied, including in our present century, sometimes ad nauseam, the electro-magnetic field and our thoughts processes, known alternatively as ‘aura,’ ‘intelligence,’ ‘cognition,’ or ‘soul’ have constituted a mystery over the centuries, culminating with the Communist denial of its very existence altogether.
So, the question raises therefore, are we beings having a human experience, or are we humans having a being experience? Much too often the being part known as ‘cognition,’ ‘gnosis,’ ‘soul,’ ‘intelligence,’ or ‘mind,’ is deferred to carnal experience or senses, equaled to matter instead of energy.
In fact, very often we tend to trade the ‘know’ for the ‘now,’ without wondering about the interconnectedness of the two.
It is based on this materialistic view that we choose possession of things and people, as opposed to being with things or people. Eric Fromm, in his To Have or To Be (Continuum International Publishing Group, London, UK, 2005), gives an example on how these two mentalities may affect us and the world: one poet sees a beautiful rose in the forest, he cuts it off, brings it home and puts it in a vase, after which he writes a poem on how beautiful this rose is; another poet, sees a beautiful rose in the forest, uproots it and transplants it in his garden, after which he writes a poem on how beautiful this rose is; a third poet, sees another beautiful rose in the forest, he approaches it gingerly and smells it, after which he writes a poem on how beautiful this rose is.
All three poets appreciated and wrote poems on how beautiful the roses in the forest are but at what cost for the roses in the first two cases?
Each day we are given to live is an opportunity for us to make a choice: do we want to progress, stagnate, or regress? Based on our choices, we proceed to think, feel, talk and act in kind.
As we set the intent to progress, for example, we also have to make a decision about what it is that we want to achieve? What’s important for me to progress to, can be related to self-esteem or self-worth values.
If it is self-esteem values I’m seeking, I will need to focus on my inner values: my character, my wisdom, my intelligence, essentially at values which I carry with me at all times, because they are inherent and an intrinsic part of me. These internal values are in my control.
On the other hand, if it is self-worth values that I’m seeking, they are dealing with materialistic things, such as cars, properties, money and social recognition. These external values are in somebody else’s control.
When we lose control of our values, we become scared. When we become scared we become angry. When we become angry, we become emotional. When we become emotional, we fail to be logical. When we are not logical we react based on triggers which more likely will get us in trouble as opposed to responding based on lucid thinking.
The trick is to have practiced during the calm and trouble-free times, conflict resolution skills, so often, that feeling calm in the midst of conflict (and therefore, being logical), is second nature. This defies the natural order of cause-effect and yet, it can be possible, because it comes from a carefully and repetitively created habit of being.
Having ‘unnatural’ reflexes is not impossible, just difficult to achieve. A ballet dancer’s erect posture and proud walking is one such example. However, for most of us, between being emotional and being calm, we need to acknowledge the importance of taking time-out. It is only after taking time-out that we can sensibly calm-down and use logic in addressing our concerns. This can be achieved by taking into consideration the respective consequences they would bring to our lives.
One example of repercussions coming from not taking time-out, before making a decision, came from a client doing private counseling sessions. He stated that it had taken him 12 years to go from Manhattan to the Bronx. Normally it takes 2 hours by subway, or 5 hours by walking, from Manhattan to the Bronx.
In his case, he recounted how one evening, while being penniless and drunk in Manhattan, he had decided to rob a person and get enough money for the subway fare, since he didn’t want to walk all the way to the Bronx.
He eventually attacked his victim, who happened to be a defenseless young lady. Besides robbing her, he also raped her. He was quickly arrested in Manhattan, shortly after his crimes and was sentenced to 12 years in prison, which he served in full. Only after that, could he return to his native neighborhood. It had taken him 12 years to go from Manhattan to the Bronx.
The stories of re-entry clients, trying to resume their lives as free people, after serving lengthy sentences in prison, abound with such tales. Impulsive actions, without the benefit of time-out periods and logical decisions being made before an action, triggered these individuals to victimize others and marked them for a life of decades of imprisonment, many other years of parole, or post-prison supervision, a permanent criminal record and many obstacles derived from the above. They say invariably, that had they only taken time-out before going ahead with impulsive actions, they could have averted for their victims, for themselves and for their loved ones the ordeals of lives destroyed.
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