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GABRIEL GHERASIM

 

THEODOR AND US

 

REFLECTIONS

ON THE GIFTS

WITHIN US

 

Chapter 7

Remedies to Learned Helplessness

 

Here are some important concepts, guiding our interactions within and with others:
       -Low self-esteem (also known as passive): allowing demeaning by others and by ourselves, which may lead to a fearful and destructive life.

-High self-esteem (also known as aggressive): selfish behavior, including demeaning others.

-Self-esteem (also known as assertive): advocating for self and others in an ethical fashion.

We should clarify that mental illnesses may also be mind-related and not just brain related. If they are mind-related they are caused by an electro-magnetic field imbalance of our thinking rather than by the more organically related brain damage. In that case, mental diseases are different from physical diseases. Talking about them in organic terms would be like talking about a “diseased emotion” or a “diseased behavior.”

Various explanations, often contradictory, if not at the antipodes of mental illness diagnoses, led William Law, a 1700’s English priest, mystic and writer to state:  “Man needs to be saved from his own wisdom, as much as from his own righteousness, for they produce one and the same corruption.”

Psychology is as much science as it is speculative and subjective interpretation of thoughts, emotions, words and actions.

The definition of Psychology in Greek means Logia-the study of and Psykhe- breath, spirit, soul, mind. The definition of psychiatry in Greek means Iatrea - the healing of and Psykhe - breath, spirit, soul; mind http://www.etymonline.com/index.php?term=psychology).

None of the original topics of study in relation to psychology were tangible elements. Instead, they were describing a conscious electro-magnetic field, which is part of us as long as we are alive (in other words, the ‘being’ in the human being).

The opposite of studying and/or healing of the mind is hypnosis. Hypnosis in Greek, means Hypnos - sleep and Osis - condition. Political slogans and Commercial advertisement are often used as forms of hypnosis because they strive to dull the individuals’ alertness, calmness and logic in an effort to influence the consumer to act based on emotional and immediate gratification reactions.

These entities have often used the behaviorist ABC Model of Antecedent-Behavior-Consequence, broken down etymologically as follows:

Antecedent: something that happens to us before, Latin-Ante we act (little or no control)

Behavior: Old English-Be; Old French-Aveir (to have) control

Consequence:  Latin-Con-with; and Sequi-to follow (little or no control).

Unless we take ownership of our intentions and use our interpretations of these triggers from a position of calmness and logic, we are going to fall into some sort of programmed compulsion, leading to very negative alterations of our interests and quality of life. The following model should, in fact, replace the behaviorist ABC model, with regard to our thinking and actions:The A- (I) -(I) -B- (I)- (I)- C Model Antecedent-Intention-Interpretation-Behavior-Intention-Interpretation-Consequences, where intention and interpretation follow our conscious decisions and interests, instead of following the stimuli fielded towards us by outside factors, in the form of triggers.

This “taking of ownership of one’s life” was beautifully stated by a client during one of the group counseling sessions, which I have facilitated, as follows:

On Love

In the entire world, there is no one else like me.

There are some persons who have some parts like me but no one adds up exactly like me.

Therefore, everything that comes out of me is authentically mine because I alone chose it.

I own everything about me:

My body, including everything it does; my mind, including all thoughts and ideas; my eyes, including the images of all they behold; my feelings, whatever they might be: Anger, Joy, Frustration, Love, Disappointment, Excitement.

 My mouth and all the words that come out of it, polite, sweet, or rough, correct or incorrect; my voice, loud and soft; and all my actions, whether they be to others or to myself.

I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own all my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes.

Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me.

By so doing, I can love me and be friendly with me in all my parts.

I can then make it possible for all of me to work in my best interest.

I know that there are aspects about myself that puzzle me and other aspects that I do not know.

But as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for ways to find out more about me.

However I look and sound, whatever I say and do and whatever I think and feel at any given moment, it is I.

This is authentic and represents where I am that given moment and time.

When I review later how I thought and felt, some parts may turn out to be unfitting.

I can then discard that which is unfitting and keep that which proved fitting and invent something new, for that which I discarded.

 I can see, hear. feel, think, say and do.

 

I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me.

I own me and therefore I can engineer me. 

 

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